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Regardless of your gender orientation or sex you are bound to undergo rejection, select awful venues and meet the wrong individuals while trying to date. As a gay guy, there are a few points you need to consider in this whole thing.

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Be broad in your search

Gay guys can be extremely picky sometimes. Maybe this is the reason some of us hardly get second dates -because we don't look hard enough during the first encounter. Take chances. Think outside the box like a real risk-taker. Use the best gay dating apps available. 

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Positivity 

Some gay guys focus much on what they don't like or want in a partner/relationship. This is considered overly prescriptive and rude. Instead say what, who or where you like.

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Avoid fetishizing

This is quite a rampant issue in the gay community. To be likable, don't objectify people. Nobody wishes to be reduced to something as basic as body parts or their race.

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Don't do regular haunts

Sometimes you may be tempted to go to social places you frequented while you were a bachelor. This puts you at the risk of meeting old friends. It is advisable to try new joints with other dates.

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Don't hung up on the idea of tops and bottoms

If you like someone, be open to other possibilities. For instance, do not rule out somebody because the both of you are tops. Dating involves more than who is kneeling or whatever.

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Don't reject men you meet on gay apps

Not all guys on the apps want sex. You need to acknowledge that you met someone, period. Being a snob does not solve anything in the dating world.

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If all you want is sex, be upfront

Some men are not always sure what they are looking for. Others are just after sex. Nothing is wrong with that; but you need to make your intentions clear to them. We do not want to leave the other person feeling confused, awful and misused, do we?

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Follow your heart, you've got nothing to lose

Most of us think that having sex on the first date is a no-no. On the contrary, this stereotypical way of thinking is nonsense. If you feel the connection and want to give it up, go for it. Sex is not the only determinant of whether the relationship will work or not.

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I hope you have learned a few things about online gay dating. Believe me that when you consider the advice given here you will get more than a first date. Above all, remember to keep a positive and open mind.